Here is an idea. Keep a file folder for the rejection letters you receive. It could be from a love interest or a college application. Want an easy source? Start applying to some dream jobs. Most will reply back.
We know so little about our future. Yes, you may have solid goals and dreams. They will take different shape as they become realized. Something we “have to have” at the time will one day point the direction to the path we ultimately take.
Then one day five or ten years from now open the folder up. As you read through them think of all the turns, changes and redirects you took to get to where you find yourself. The journey and story that will unfold will be fascinating. I bet you got there not because someone picked you (maybe one or two did). Ultimately you will reach your goals because you picked yourself.