Why don’t we ask each other for help anymore? It wasn’t too long ago that barns were raised as a community, sheep were sheared as a group effort. When I was young we used to participate in the spring branding, immunizations and ear tagging for a friend’s cattle ranch. It was a time to get together, share experiences but most of all a way to get a huge job done in a short amount of time.
We seem to have lost both the ability to do things like this in our busy schedules. We still have large projects to tackle. It doesn’t even have to be big. It could be a simple favor. We rarely ask each other for help and we don’t offer either. Maybe it is a result of our individualistic tendencies in the US. In other countries people still rely on community. I think they have something figured out that we don’t. We can’t do it alone. I will go even further and say we are not meant to do life alone.
We are preparing to move to another town. In order to do that we need to sell our home and complete many projects to do so. My wife and I realized that we just can’t get it all done with out help. Over the past week we have had a handful of friends volunteer. We ended up getting jobs done that I expected to take weeks to finish. One of the best parts I have enjoying in receiving help is the uninterrupted time to visit and connect. I can’t think of the last time I spent an entire weekend with my friend Steve who helped power-wash and paint.
So let us put away our pride. Stop thinking and ask others to help you accomplish a task. Notice projects others are overwhelmed by and lend a hand. Better yet grab some friends and accomplish it together. After all, we not meant to do life alone.