I had several conversation about hyper-connectivity versus reclusiveness while visiting my friend and co-author Donavon Roberson. I asked Donavon to repost his thoughts here.
Have you ever stopped to ask the question – are we too connected today? We have cell phones, ipads, netbooks, laptops, smart phones, webcams, etc…the world is growing smaller every day. We have so many options and ways to connect but are we too connected?
Think of all the ways that we interact with others:
* and much more
So why would I ask the question about connection? Let me tell a story:
During “date night” last night, my daughter and I had the following conversation:
Me: “Is there anything that you have wanted to say to me that you have been afraid to say?”
Me: “Yes, you can be honest.”
Moe: “You know when we went out as a family the other night? I was so excited to spend time with you and mom but you guys spent much of the night on your phones; tweeting, texting, facebooking, and what ever else you guys do. It just hurt my feelings.”
Me: “You’re right, we should have spent time talking instead.” (After I pulled the knife out of my heart.)
So are we too connected?
If our online and mobile connections get in the way of our human connections, then yes we are.
If our online and mobile connections enhance our human connections, then no we are not.
The point of the resources available to us is to create interactions and deeper relationships with others BUT many times they become distractions. While sitting with “real human beings”, we spend time connecting virtually as we tweet, as we facebook, as we text, as we email, and so on and so on.
What depth and richness of relationships are we missing out on because of the distractions of technology and virtual connections?
Life is about relationships. Life is about connections. Life is about influence.
Let’s not get so distracted by the virtual world that we miss out on those sitting right beside us.
In the spirit of openness and transparency, I am working on a book with a friend of mine entitled “Connection and Influence”. So please read this post in the spirit in which it is meant. I am ALL about connections, social engagement, and technology (some of my closest friends live all around the world). I just don’t want to miss out on the here and now. I don’t want to take for granted those that are in my life and right beside me or across from me.
I want to know what you think. Leave a comment below.
You can find out more about Donavan on his site.