Empathy begins when we we discover blindspots. Our relationships break free of limits when, observed, we decide to set aside assumptions, our own bias, our realities and realize….the other person does not experience any of these like we do. David Foster Wallace said “The most obvious important realities are often the ones that are hardest… Read more about Hardest to see
“We have never done that before” our director told us after our first interview and learning we wanted to go over seas with our family of 4. They sent their first family last year in the ten years sending people to work as english university professors overseas. That family had a three year old, not… Read more about You are doing what?!
We had been waiting for about two hours. An eleven hour drive remained between us and our homes. Really we were at the mercy of the convention center union dock workers and before that the desk and marshaling yard receptionist. It was the end of a long week at the Game Developers Conference. Everything had… Read more about Moving forward
It is the end of a hard day. Maybe the worst kind. Maybe it is a Monday. All you want it a glass of your favorite beverage and Netflix. Being with anyone feels like too much. Isolation is the draw. “I need to re-charge” is the appeal. Introverts, extroverts and all those in-between, we all… Read more about One final push
Here is a connection assignment. Before your next meeting, date, coffee with a friend or family gathering, do one thing. Take your phone and put it in your glove box. Don’t have a car? Place it in your purse, bag or backpack on silent mode. Then resist taking it out till you leave. My wife… Read more about If you were paying attention
We have all experienced this. We walk into the vacation rental, business or classroom and are met with a barrage of instructional signs. Signs are posted in the bathroom, kitchen and bedroom doors. We have plenty to learn, as the new member in the club, stable, office, classroom, time share or rental. As the leader… Read more about Too many signs
Do the right thing. It will gratify some people and astonish the rest. Mark Twain Why do you think Twain mentioned the reactions of others when writing about doing the right thing? I think it is because our actions have so much to do with our connection to others. Rarely do we act in a… Read more about What will you do?
Like any input, words have influence on us and others. Sailors are skilled at using the winds and currents to help move them forward through the water in their intended direction. A fighter is trained to use the energy of an opponent to form and deliver their next blow. In both examples the result is… Read more about Using inputs