It was a bit funny that I had just read about the science of smile the morning I met Ali of Thistledown Photo for the first time. I contacted her to take a few business shots for the blog and we had chatted via e-mail for about two weeks. Guy Kawasaki in his book Enchanted… Read more about Plenty of crows-feet: My shoot with Ali
When we meet someone a conversation begins over a question, shared interest, or a collaboration. The relationship goes from acquaintance to another level of trust. Like all good conversations, it will eventually end. Sometimes the relationship will transfer to other conversations but you will have gaps between them. It is difficult to maintain a high level of friendship at all times with everyone in your greater circle. That is how what I call the loop-around comes in handy. In Trust Agents, Julian Smith and Chris Brogan talk about this as Basic Touch. It is the art of connecting personally with individuals in your network on significant days or on a recurring schedule….
A friend challenged me last week to be more edgy in my posts. Why though? Here is some back story. I am passionate about a few things. I use this blog to vet out those passions and thoughts. Some posts are wrought out of frustration. Sometimes I just need to air an idea. It usually unfolds like this. I write unedited (kind of like now) getting the words onto the page. I don’t hold anything back. I edit a draft once or twice. If it is a topic that might be sensitive, or I am struggling with flow, I will ask my wife to take a look at it. She will usually point out a snarky or elitist tone. Neither of wich are my intent. I used to get defensive, arguing that she didn’t get my point, that I was being contrary on purpose. I have softened to her wisdom though. She will remind me that people listen to calm and cool over hot head and stupid. And she is…..
I have been reading Tara Rodden’s blog posts for over a year now. Each one has left me challenged to live a more balanced and productive life. But with that challenge she has also offered practical ways to achieve it. So when I was sent her new book I knew I was going to read something valuable. That assumption was confirmed. 40 Days Forward: Your Journey to a Life of Abundance and Meaning, is in it’s entirety, simple, digestible and doable. I have read many books on success, both for private and professional life. Many are good. One thing that most of them have in common is complexity to the solution they present. We all face challenges …..
Most of the world already knows that Facebook is one of the best ways to stay connected. What many people donâ€™t understand is that what they see in their main feed on either the top news or most recent feed, is not a full account of their friendâ€™s updates and activities. Facebook has an algorithm it uses based on activity level, conversation and other factors. Facebook is in control of who’s updates you see.
That can be tweaked though. Like Twitter, you can create lists of your family, co-workers, or all of them. These lists are managed under drop the down menu when the â€œMost Recentâ€ tab is clicked. It takes some navigation to see list though. I have devised a….
n the early 90’s Eddie Bauer was still trying to uphold the great customer satisfaction guarantee their founder established back in 1922. He basically said that you could bring back any item no matter how worn or old, for a full refund, no questions asked. The customer’s satisfaction came first. It was that policy that made me want to work for the company back then. Over the years as stock manager and floor salesman I met many lifetime customers that stayed with Eddie Bauer for the integrity of that policy……
An essential part of connecting is managing time. Time is valuable. Without it we don’t think of ways to connect others or have reserves to invest in relationships. One of the greatest time sucks is email.
If you have received an e-mail from me in the past three months you have seen a disclaimer/notice at the end “I usually check email twice a day. Here is why http://bit.ly/emailstalking. If you need me right away you can send me a text note using the number below..” In the linked post Andy Traub challenges the reader to only check e-mail twice a day. You see, I was an email addict, checking several times a day. Think of Mark Zucherberg hitting the F5 key over and over again at the end of The Social Network. It is a huge distraction…..
This post continues a conversation I had with Carissa Caramanis Oâ€™Brien, a couple weeks back. Actually it was our first conversation. Carissa asked what I did for a living. If you know me, you know a bit of my story. Saying I went to school for fisheries biology surprises people who know me know me today as a writer and connector. But how did I go from fisheries to what I do now? It is a real journey and one that did not always make sense. So when I gave Carissa the background, I capped my story with “I guess I got on the wrong bus”. She stopped me and said “no you didn’t, you got on the correct bus”. She pointed out that I would not have arrived where I am today if I hadn’t taken that…