We all have moods. Moods are a constant visitor to our days, be it the dependence on caffeine, nicotine or any other drug or our reaction to resistance in the day. Not all of them are bad. They can color our experiences and our connectedness to others with vibrant colors bringing brightness, encouragement and joy. They can also darken any visit or chat with clouds of depression and hopelessness.
Call it mindset over mood. Stop and think about your last conversation with your spouse, sibling, friend or co-worker. What was yours, or probably easier to discern, their impact on you during the interaction? Did it leave you with a skip in your step? We all have a rub on each other. We have way more of control over how people make us feel than we want to own up to. But still, it also goes the other way. We have more control than we allow ourselves to have over the temperature of our day to day moments. Yes, positive thinking and all that does play a part. More so, it has to do with making a decision, setting our goals on a mindset, and then through plain and simple discipline choosing to stick with it no matter what comes with the unfolding of the day.
Words, like discipline, hard-work and delayed gratification are not very popular. We want to be heard now, satisfied in the moment and if anything takes the work of painful habit bending then we would rather put up with drama and mediocrity.
Here is an experiment. Challenged yourself to find ways to lead in every situation. In doing that we realize the need for a mindset. We can’t start a call and let a mood, caffeine level or daily frustrations guide the conversation.
Some of the most influential people are steady and constant. Yes, they all have bad days. The difference is the level to which they allow it to impact their day.
This past year the world lost a great mentor and hero. Louis Zamperini, was an olympian, war hero and friend to many men and women over his 97 years. In Unbroken, Laura Hillenbrand tells of Zamperini’s survival through World War II as not only a survivor lost at sea but two grueling years as a prisoner of war in Japan. His suffering is beyond imagination. He survived much due to a solid mindset.