One of my favorite memories growing up are trips my mom and I would take to the Oregon coast together. A member of our family owned an old forties era bungalow cabin heated by a wood stove that looked out on the breaking waves in one of the most beautiful sections of beach in the world. The one ingredient that set it apart was mom’s time. I am her youngest child out of five, so having her attention and time was often rare with many siblings to manage, love and herd.
We would spend hours playing Uno or talking. It is these stolen moments with my kids that I enjoy the most as well. Sometimes it takes a period of silence for them to open up but the extra time investment is so worth the wait to hear about their teen struggles and life dreams.
One of the most important parts of our connectedness as humans is one to one time.
I think it is probably the most disrupted one as well. Busy schedules unintentionally force us to make group meetings over the individual time. We become economic instead of intentional in our parenting, leadership, and friendships. Technology acts as a surrogate but a horrible substitute. A text message exchange can never replace looking another person in the eye.
In business, these meetings are where most of the growth happens not just for the employee but also the leader. People share more, open up and ask for help and guidance.
This mother’s day I am thankful for my mother. She still naturally seeks out that time with her children. And she does not stop with us. I see her reaching out to those around her the same way. She is a great example to follow. Thanks, mom.