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Where are the signs?

As I landed in Asia after a nearly 24 hour flight from the United States earlier this week I could only think of one thing. Where are the sex signs? I had been invited to travel with a group called The Exodus Road whose mission it is to rescue children from sex trafficking with a major focus centering in Asia.

brothelWhen you arrive at the Las Vegas International Airport it is obvious that no one is hiding the fact that sex sells and Vegas has plenty to offer. Amsterdam is similar. Landing at the airports in major cities in SE Asia in countries like Laos, Thailand, Cambodia, or Vietnam a traveler can be totally unaware of a dark secret sometimes operating in the very hotel they will soon be staying in. They would have a hard time knowing that there is a shiny veneer covering a thriving sex industry. And beyond that veneer is the darkest of all, the trafficking of children for sex.

What is it about these cultures that keep such a secret discrete even in the face of international pressures to address the issue? While the awareness of this crime has entered the world stage through the efforts of NGO’s and government campaigns, sex tourism still stands as a major economic giant. Most of these countries have passed legislation outlawing human trafficking, Myanmar joining them as late as 2005.

According to the International Labor Organization 4 Asian countries depend on the sex industry for 2% to as high as 14% of their economies. UNICEF reports in The State of the Worlds Children 2012, that out of the 2.5 million people trafficked in the world it is estimated that 22 – 50 percent of them are children. Of those trafficked some studies show that most trafficked underage women are used in the sex industry. The UNODC’s report: Global report on trafficking in persons 2012 states that much of that activity happens in SE Asia.

So the question remains if these societies will be able to continue hiding those realities. The world is starting to wake up to the facts. No longer is it only the pedophile who knows about the dark profitable places to seek out a child. Just this past week at a major gathering of college christian students called Passion, 60,000 students pledged to help end human trafficking. Coalitions are being formed all the time and groups are beginning to work together from the aggravating work of finding these victims to prosecuting their handlers. Facades can only mask so long what seems to embarrass a culture of honor.

I remember flying into Beijing for the first time right before the commencement of the 2008 Summer Olympics. The government went to great lengths to position everything from signs, reducing traffic induced smoggy skies, and other details to whitewash anything but the best of the city and surrounding scenery. Returning this last summer though, many of these measures had been removed. The city was still a symbol of power, but a truer Beijing was now visible, even with its least pleasant characteristics.

If these less honorable, and even worse, criminal activities against children become known stories then there will be a reduction in the places for them to hide and carry out the activity. Over the next week, as I travel throughout the region, I will be publishing first hand accounts of the people I meet. Some will be industry workers who have witnessed underage trafficking. Others will be investigators, case managers and aftercare professionals from various coalitions. I hope that their lives begin to paint yet another picture of the greater story being told by many, one that is creating an army of people who will not look the other way, one that finds honor only in dignity for all humans beings. While many people have said wise things in regards to slavery, these words from William Wilberforce’s quote in his address to the British Parliament in 1789 stand hauntingly appropriate for our world today. “Having heard all of this, you may choose to look the other way but you can never say again that you did not know.”

Disruptive People: those who usher us to change

This is the second post in a series on disruption. I had planned to write about disruptive people first but there was such an outpouring of disruption stories after the introductory post that I decided to put it second in line. However, each of those stories shared had a person in them that could be considered disruptive. Tact aside, even the most blunt person can be used to guide us along in our personal and professional growth. I was reminded this weekend by my friend David Stanley about John Eldredge’s description of how disruptive Jesus is. In his book Beautiful Outlaw Eldredge puts it so well,

“His honesty and severity are measured out precisely, according to the amount of delusion and self-deception encasing his listener. When a soul is encrusted with pride, bigotry, self-righteousness, and intellectual elitism…..then that shell does need to be struck hard at times in order to cause a crack that might allow some light in. Jesus strikes with the precision of Michelangelo.”

I go into this in greater detail in the video. Who is the most disruptive person in your life that has caused you to change for the better. After all, as a connector I am able to amplify and connect those who are on a path of exposing their truest self. The more we allow disruption to change us the more we are able to change our world.

Feed the innovator, connector, world changer

This morning Heidi Carlson of Hubspot shared an article on twitter from Fast Company that caught my attention. It covered Atari’s Founder Nolan Bushnell’s talk at Mindshare this past week. His main point was that we need to do analog things to keep our innovation alive. I have started to notice a pattern in my life in regards to my ability to be impactful as a connector, innovator and change agent. When I am drained I start to hide. By hide I mean connect less, innovate less and lose hope for a changed world. I lose my enjoyment in spending time with others. Life loses beauty and movement. It is a condition of our digital age. We are inundated with demands and opportunities but have lost what is needed to sustain.

Call it overreacting to the lizard brain, a factor of our economy, striving or digital addiction. Whatever you call it, the result is less of anything good and a lot of loss.

Below are a few ways that have helped me stay away from that list. These are ones that are working well for me and I would love to hear how you are keeping it at bay.

Digital Shabbats

I started taking what I call digital shabbats after getting to know Tiffany Shlain. She explains so well in her documentary Connected how our brains are becoming rewired due to constant digital use. In her own life she noticed she was less connected to the people she cared about the most. Taking one day a week to completely unplug changed it all for her. I have found the same result after making it a weekly habit. Judith Shulevitz has explored what the sabbath does extensively in her book The Sabbath World. You can see her here talking about what the sabbath has meant for her.

At first it was very difficult to practice because I was on a high from being so connected digitally. Now I look forward to my 24 hours of no iPhone, Twitter, Facebook or any other digital communication. I spend time reading, praying and getting closer to those around me in meatspace. It has really changed my life.

Beauty

Bushnell mentions this and my friend and co-director at Soma Games, Nat Iwata writes about it in an excellent blog post. We need beauty. Again I find that as I strive and struggle to get ahead, beauty seems to fall off the schedule. I use tools like Instagram to post cool things I find through pictures. You can easily correlate the frequency of posts there with my level of stress. When I am relaxed and alive I post a lot of pictures. When I am under the gun so to speak they disappear.

Guarding our Hearts

Out of all scripture I think one of the verses that to this day has been most important to me is Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.”
This guarding manifests in many ways, and I think each of us has to explore what it means. For me it means being careful who I spend my time around. I pick up on moods and if people are constantly putting others down or stuck in mediocrity it can quickly steal my joy. What eventually happens is I lose drive and if I really let them in they will eventually steal more.
It can also mean being careful of the content I allow myself to digest. If it is bad for my kids it is usually bad for me. You are the best judge and can tell if your heart has stopped beating though. Go on a journey to find out when that beat died.

Staying Uncomfortable

Going back to Bushnell’s talk, I would point out that all of the recommendations he gave for keeping innovation alive could be grouped together in his first recommendation, staying uncomfortable. All of us, if we have slipped too far into busyness will find any of his recommendations terribly uncomfortable. I read a great quote this weekend (I can’t remember the source) that said it is better to disrupt ourselves before others disrupt us. I would say the same thing and add life. But that is another blog post all together.

Go make yourself uncomfortable today.

You may also be interested in my post: The Connector Recharged

Entrepreneur or Employee?

It was two years ago this upcoming fall that a mentor challenged me with the statement “you are not acting like an entrepreneur”. It really torqued me because I was still living in an employee mindset. At the time I was a consultant and early founding member of my current company but had not yet left my job of nearly a decade. I had completely changed my career but I was still struggling with the balance of risk vs. comfort, the risk of startup life and the seemingly safe comfort as an employee.

This past week my friends and co-directors at Soma Games and Code-Monkeys were hanging out at our local bookstore. One of us noticed this crazy collection of books on the shelf (see photo). The titles were ironically placed: Automatic Millionaire, Investing for Dummies, At the Bar, Go Down Together and Debt Proof Living. Wow, could there be a funnier group of books to face a team of entrepreneurs? As a team we have seen success, challenge, and at times even faced possible annihilation. The latter two would have broken me two years ago. What has changed for me is state of mind.

I no longer pay much attention to complaints without solutions, watch the clock or live in an anxiety driven day. Yes I still dip into those categories but I quickly realize I have a choice.

I think the greatest thing that has to die continually for me is self-preservation. There is a clip I show when speaking to men that sums it up pretty well. In the true story of E Company in World War II, better known as the Band of Brothers, one of the privates admitted that instead of fighting on D-Day he gathered his parachute and hid till the battle was over. A while later as he is wallowing in his cowardly state on the front line he encounters Lt. Spears. Spears tells him he hid in the ditch not because he was scared but because he thought there was still hope.

I love that scene because it speaks so strongly to our struggle with self preservation and how easily we fall into a victim role. I see it all around me in marriages, schools, businesses and churches. We expect to be hand fed. If things get tough we abandon instead of owning our own roles in the situation. We act like slaves instead of linchpins. We hesitate instead of moving forward in confidence. On our own we all lack dependability. The only dependable thing we have in life is God.

I have chosen to act like an entrepreneur in every area of my life. In my marriage I choose to love with abandon. I own up to my constant struggle between comfort and security. In my business I am assessing my own role in both its successes and failures. I believe this is available to everyone in any situation. Even if we live in slavery we still have control of our outlook and mindset. We always have choices.

Connectedness to Spreading Ideas: Waves to Tsunamis in Film

Two months ago I watched a panel held at Sundance titled Power of Story: How Docs Changed Change. It was moderated by CNN anchor Soledad O’Brien. The panelists included Sundance Institute President and Founder Robert Redford, Sheila Nevins, president of HBO Documentary Films and Nick Fraser commissioning editor of BBC’s Storyville. I had hoped the panel would have talked more about the role of connectedness in spreading the message and discussion of the documentary subject.  It never happened.  The time was spent mainly talking about film form and such and the only mention of the viewers role in , as the panel was called, “how docs changed change” was by Fraser who was amazed at receiving a mere hundred emails from fans for one of BBC’s documentaries.  Really?  I am sure if he had the correct tools he would have seen thousands of mentions and interactions through blogs, tweets and other connecting tools.

My conclusion was that these film makers were terribly disconnected from current trends and in the end their audiences.  The change is occurring because we are becoming more connected than ever and films like the record breaking Kony 2012 film regardless of your opinion about the ethics, shows how an idea can be spread through the format.  What filmaker need to understand though is how they can best use the connected audience.

Here is the panel in it’s entirety. Your thoughts?

Watch live streaming video from sundancefest at livestream.com

Striking a Pose

The Drapers trick or treatingThis past year I have been catching up with the series Mad Men that tracks the protagonist Don Draper as he goes about his life becoming more entrapped by a web of lies. Every episode he falls deeper into a pose, an act that is far from who he really is.  One episode highlights how far from reality he has strayed and ends with him taking his family trick or treating. As they stand on the steps of one of the houses, the neighbor cheerfully asks the children “now who are you?”. The Camera pans up to Draper’s face and the question becomes truly haunting as you see in his expression that he really has no clue.

This subject of identity surfaces when I am having conversations about privacy. I think it is more about the pose. People seek my advice on content, sharing and building influence and community in business. I often get the privacy question: how much should I or my business share online?

Before I answer that question I first ask how much they are comfortable being themselves. With the latest run of Facebook changes, many have found that they are no longer comfortable with the content they have shared presumably behind a wall of protection.  Timelines expose their photos or likes freely on their friend pages. While I enjoy seeing what people are up to there are two types that I would prefer kept silent. Watching a person in a pose can be painful.  Like Mad Men’s audience, the world is aware of our pose.  Our lives are played out, some in public, some behind closed doors, but all on a stage.

Don Draper is an example of someone who is able to fool those around him, for a while. Others take on an almost clownish behavior afforded by wealth or fame.  Take Megaupload’s founder and now jailed Kim Dotcom as a prime example.  Even before his fall anyone could tell he was hiding his true identity behind fast cars, women and loud bragging.

Being ourselves doesn’t mean we have to bleed our issues all over the internet either.  I share my workflow and personal life everyday.  I invite others along on my journey and enjoy seeing others post as they go about their work and life.  I don’t share every intimate detail of my life though.  I have an inner circles of friends, each one with which I trust with more confidence as the circles tighten and reach the center.

This also means that I take time to self reflect and change the things in my life that are out of balance.  I also ask a select group to be candid with me if they see anything in my life that is not in character with the person they have come to know. They are my trenchmates and I listen to them.

So when you ask, I encourage you to first know yourself, reach that place where you like who you are and change the things that you are unhappy with.  Next I encourage you to find a balance that you are happy with when it comes to sharing you life with the world. I believe we are meant to learn and be inspired by the stories of peoples lives. We can’t do that if you hold back your own life.  We have a lot to learn from you.

 

No way to compliment

This week I had a great customer service experience while arranging for my warranty covered notebook to be repaired. That is not what prompted this post though. The reason I am writing this resulted to from the response the rep gave to a question at the end of our online chat.  I was a happy customer. My computer was going to be fixed and returned free of charge in 7-9 days. The rep had answered all my questions, was polite, and most of all human in their communication. As a result, I wanted to give them a shout out.  I asked how best I could do that via Twitter, Facebook or Google Plus.  The response was frustrating.  They told me that I should expect a survey shortly and I could reflect my satisfaction by filling it out. Ok, wow. I hate filling out surveys.  Likely it will in no way help out the rep that gave me stellar service.

This was not the fault of the rep.  As company leaders we have broken systems. The bigger the company the more broken they are.  What I understood from the end of my chat was that there was no way for a customer to compliment them. The rep had no channel or tool outside of a boring survey to give to a happy customer.  With engagement being the currency of today’s business economy HP appeared bankrupt. Unlike the rep I know that they could have said the following:

Oh, that is great?  Yes we have a Facebook page located at http://www.facebook.com/HP or you can mention this on Twiiter. Our twitter account is https://twitter.com//hp.  We are just starting out on Google Plus but you can engage there as well.

Everyone is learning in this ever changing social space. Customer service reps are the front line heroes.  If you have the power give them some as well.  Hire employees you trust and give them flexibility to engage as well as the training to do it well.

What if Churchill never spoke?

Times are rough.  Companies are struggling to make it.  Startups come and go. Wars are being fought all over the world and often the battle wether it be for your life, health or business can seem hopeless.

But the truth is it is not hopeless.  My favorite battle victory stories are the ones where the odds seemed impossible.  But history tells us they were not. In fact all of those battles had a strong leader that lead with resolve, inspiration and hope.

Churchill gave three pivotal speeches during World War II but my favorite has been most commonly referred to as the “We will Fight on the Beaches” given to the House of Commons in Parliament June 4th 1940.  In that speech he had to do three things;  To announce what he deemed a “colossal military disaster” in France and Belgium, make England and the rest of the free world aware of how dire the situation was with Hilters real threat of invading the British Isles, and third (and I would say most importantly) inspire great confidence and resolve in winning the coming battle.  Here is an excerpt from that speech that most inspires me:

We shall fight in France, we shall fight on the seas and oceans, we shall fight with growing confidence and growing strength in the air, we shall defend our island, whatever the cost may be. We shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills; we shall never surrender, and if, which I do not for a moment believe, this island or a large part of it were subjugated and starving, then our Empire beyond the seas, armed and guarded by the British Fleet, would carry on the struggle, until, in God’s good time, the new world, with all its power and might, steps forth to the rescue and the liberation of the old. (I encourage you to listen to the speech in whole via the Guardian)

So a leaders communication can mean everything to those facing a hard time.  That is why Churchill, and many other historical greats like him chose to speak.   Yes the battle might seem hopeless and doom may be looming but each of us can communicate in our greatest effort a message that will draw forth the best in those around us. So if given the chance, speak truth. Speak confidence in yours and others strength.  Most of all speak hope.

Engage and connect over interrupt, please!

I wish that was the case when it came to big companies: Engage over interrupt. But unfortunately they still choose to interrupt us.  I am a State Farm client.  I chose them because my local agent Chris Nordyke is all about engagement.  His company though is still stuck in interrupt mode sending me snail mail that goes unopened right in the recycle bin.  Worse, they show up on sites where I am trying to

get something done.  Here is an example of an ad that wastes my time and forces me to think about becoming a customer even though I already am one.  I am trying to use the site to find a new home, so every time I visit the site the ad plays …just as if I had never been there before.  How much of their multi millions marketing budget is spent on commercial ads, mailers and gimicky campaigns like this one that could instead be driven down to agents like mine.  I can think of many ways he would readily engage his community and customer base even more with that money.  But no, they continue to interrupt us instead of treating us like people.  If it was not for the heart and people behind my local version of State Farm I would quickly move on.

I might be clueless

On my trip back from Seattle on thursday night we were taking a quick break at a restaurant.  On the tv screen at the eatery was a silent image of a court room.  Someone was testifying and a defendant was sitting at the table with his legal team.  I had no idea who it was or why it was apparently important enough to be national news.  My friend Ryan informed me that it was Michael Jackson’s doctor on trail for his alleged role in Jackson’s death.  I was completely clueless on the matter and and furthermore thrilled to be.  Standing outside the popular media’s interpretation of newsworthy is refreshing.  I only have so much time to be caught up on the news that is relevant to my world.

I used to be a current events junkie.  I had to read  newspapers every morning or I felt incomplete.  At one time I had subscriptions to the Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Washington Post and the Oregonian.  I know that sounds excessive but  I was  headed toward a career in either foreign service or politics. Beyond that I wanted to keep my finger on the pulse of the world. Fortunately my plans changed.  Now I get my news mainly from you, my community (the complete discussion of how I get the news is one of my favorite posts (All the News that’s Tailored to Read).

So today I might be clueless in many subjects outside publishing, communications, connecting, video games, mobile technology and such. I think I have a lot more to offer because of it.  I still read up on some popular news but I only turn my attention to it if someone in my network makes a compelling mention about.  Are you making it a goal to be clueless?

 

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