I caught myself telling a stale narrative last night.
It was story that had become over-used and actually worthless.
I knew that I had better things to share, even as I told it.
We all do this.
Every day has many events. Like bricks in a wall they build build our overall story.
We often, just as I had, fall back on old stories. These are standbys, cheap filler added to what really is a rich life.
Why do we do this?
I have many theories. Here are a few.
We often have little margin to reflect on our daily lives.
Without it we are like speeding trains going about our day without perspective, evaluation and reflection. This is a great reason to write daily, why journaling is so helpful. We are able to see when we’ve drifted from my own narrative or become distracted by the many things that can easily clutter a story.
Another is the belief that we don’t have a significant story. I have never met an uninteresting person. I have though met many people that have told me they don’t have a story though. It doesn’t take long, if someone asks the right questions and spends time to listen, to show how untrue that is.
Last, many people fall into a common trap. They believe (even if they won’t admit it) that they are stuck and there is no way out. These are are the worst offenders. If you spend enough time around them they will tell the same stories over and over.
So now that I have discovered this stale story I will today as I connect with people, stop and choose another one. Or better yet, maybe I will be silent and listen more.
How about you?