Take a break and ask yourself one question: What is my level of connectedness? I was looking through Linkedin today and realized there are three categories: A mile deep, vacant, and thriving (I am sure we can think of more but these are the ones that stood out to me). LinkedIn is just one example. This applies to any connection tool like Facebook or Twitter.
The mile deep are those who have hundreds of connections but little to show for it. Think of the card collectors that come back from conferences with a large rubber banded stack of business cards. We probably have one of their cards buried someplace in our obsolete cell phone cord drawer. They are experts of getting you to take their card but often don’t have much influence when it comes to collaborations or knowing anyone beyond title and profession.
Next, the vacant ones have about 20-50 contacts. To clarify there are plenty of friends who have this number but are incredibly connected (see the next class). This group though has probably out of obligation created a LinkedIn account and dabbled in adding connections. In my opinion an account like this is more damaging than not having one at all. What it broadcasts to the world is a simple message: I am not really showing up.
Last is the thriving group. They continue to grow their influence through true connection. They build new relationships while strengthening the ones they already have. They see opportunity to help their network out at every new meeting or innovative discovery. Usually because they are aware, they often think of others to promote. High numbers have little power here. They continually tightened their tribe instead of bloating it by playing the number game. They use their best connections to spread some remarkableness. Not only are they true leaders, you can be confident that several people in their network have the same level of connectedness.
So again what category are you in and where do you want to be?