We do not see things as they are, we see them as we are. -The Talmud.
I read that yesterday morning in Brian Solis’ latest book. The wisdom in this simple statement has been something I have been reflecting on a lot lately. We don’t see things, people, events the same way as we would have a year ago or even a week ago. We were different people then. Our perspectives, intuitions, interpretations are always changing as we change.
There is a scene I love in Robert Redford’s film and adaptation of Norman Maclean’s book A River Runs through it. Norman in his sage years is on his beloved Big Black Foot struggling to tie a fly on his line. The film begins with this scene and sets the stage for the whole story.
“Long ago, when I was a young man, my father said to me, “Norman, you like to write stories.” And I said “Yes, I do.”
Then he said, “Someday, when you’re ready you might tell our family story. Only then will you understand what happened and why.”
The people we meet and the experiences we have are going to be far from things we completely understand today. But that is ok. The pressure is off. Really we just need to be present in the moment. It doesn’t mean we can stop learning and growing. It just means that there is always more than we can ever imagine still to be discovered in those around us. And that is pretty exciting. Like Norman, some day we will understand. Until then we get to dig in and explore. Who will you look at differently knowing there is way more to them than you could ever imagine….today?