What are we projecting on others of our own experiences? I went to sleep with this on my mind last night. This morning I take my children to a new school. We have spent a good deal of time making our current move away from our home town as enjoyable and easy as possible for our kids. Starting a new school is a tough one. We drove by the the school the day after Thanksgiving and pointed out the playground. We told them how wonderful we thought their new teachers are. We assured them they would have a buddy to show them around the first day and that we would make sure they were settled before we left. But there was still an uneasiness I felt as I thought about the coming morning last night.
Growing up I moved over eleven times. I attended five different elementary schools. Just when I was getting comfortable at one school I would have to start all over with new friends and surroundings. I like the fact that we have lived as a family in one town over the last fourteen years. That was my experience though not my children’s. I was projecting all of that on their new day at a new school.
What do we project on others we are connected with? Customers, close friends, co-workers and employees all have had their own journeys that believe it or not are very different from our own. Are we adding to their story or cluttering it unknowingly with our own perceptions and baggage, good or bad. It is a good question to ask when anyone we know is facing a change, challenge or opportunity.