Comments on: Shut Up: stop talking and really listen

By: John Bergquist

John Bergquist — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 22:44:14 +0000

I was thinking of that line and your reply while writing the most recent part. A while back (since I always have something to say) I decided to hold my tongue in conversations until it drove me nuts. I found that the silence allowed others to give input and it often was exactly what I would have said. Plus, always being the dominant one in a conversation lends itself too easily to being the topic bully or know it all.

By: John Bergquist

John Bergquist — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 22:40:52 +0000

While I have been thinking of this series mostly in regards to building trust in biz, I find most of my communication lessons are learned from friends and my wife. Sometimes I think we treat strangers way better than those closest to us. Thanks Kevin.

By: chrisrepp

chrisrepp — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 14:34:25 +0000

Love the line, shut up till you can't stand it any longer! Great post. Lemme think where I've heard this before, it goes something like “Quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger…” Grrrrr I'm bad at all three of these! Thanks for the encouragement John.

By: Johnflurry

Johnflurry — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 05:17:16 +0000

Kevin, as you said, we have to care, and I think you are right, it is a discipline. Thanks for sharing it!

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Tweets that mention Shut Up: stop talking and really listen -- Topsy.com — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 02:07:40 +0000

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Tweets that mention Shut Up: stop talking and really listen -- Topsy.com — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 02:07:40 +0000

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Tweets that mention Shut Up: stop talking and really listen -- Topsy.com — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 02:07:40 +0000

Shaun McLane, JobShoots. JobShoots said: Shut Up: stop talking and really listen http://bit.ly/6CbzPM #news #socialmedia [...]

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Tweets that mention Shut Up: stop talking and really listen -- Topsy.com — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 02:07:40 +0000

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By: Kevin Miller

Kevin Miller — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 01:53:00 +0000

John – really valuable post…I'll send it to my folks. One one hand, I'm blessed to have been taught this. As a discipline, I do it actively…shut up. But even then, doesn't always mean I”m listening. For me I have to address my heart…and truly care. Whether in my marriage, on a phone call, or reading a blog. Thanks for pointing out the elephant in the room. I'm doing a class tomorrow on personal selling skills. This…is one of them! So I'll reference you.